Starting to feel uncomfortable around people I’ve known for years
Not all of them, mind you. A lot of my oldest friends are the most supportive about my transition and are great about it. But then I get messages from the few who don’t quite get it and it’s kind of…yeah. I don’t even know what to say to them half the time.
There’s one girl I still talk to, known her for four years and everything. And just out of the blue, I get a message from her asking me if I’m “completely” male yet and when did I “decide” I was a dude.
Part of me wants to attempt to educate her but feels it to be futile(she’s a lesbian who had a hardcore crush on me for years and was uncomfortable when I came out as transsexual), and part of me wants to ignore the message. I ended up going with a middle route and tried to scoot around the question by asking her how she was, but just…no.
After she persisted, I just sort of gave her a short little lesson on it and she seemed to get it? I don’t like giving trans 101 because I don’t feel qualified to educate anyone.
And I don’t want to educate anyone. But it’s not cool to start a conversation with “Hey did you change your genitals yet”. Nope. Nope nope nope.
Maybe one day I’ll privately speak with the few people I want to stay in my life and get their contact info all up to date and then I’ll move far away and start over for the most part. Yeah. That’d be nice.